Do you often find yourself preaching the importance of gratitude to your children? Or thinking “This generation is so entitled…it’s because they have it all handed to them on a plate!”? And yet, no matter how hard you try to instill thankfulness in them, they seem to be getting whinier and grumpier by the day, right?
This was Mr. Gamal’s dilemma too in Asmaa Hussein’s book titled Mr. Gamal’s Gratitude Glasses. But unlike the often used “preach to teach” approach, Mr. Gamal (or rather Asmaa) has used a much more creative way to teach the kids some much-needed gratitude!
Of course, the title somewhat gives the storyline away (and this review will give away even more…beware spoilers ahead!) but the way the plot has been weaved is so simple and yet, so so creative. Superficially speaking, it is Mr. Gamal’s creativity that shines through his idea of distributing tinted glasses from the dollar store to his students after a day fraught with grumpiness to encourage them to shift their perspective, so to say. But when you delve deeper, you find creative nuance in the way each character in the story finds things to be grateful for in the midst of feeling lost and hopeless. And that, I think, is key to teaching gratitude to children or even ourselves. Because you see, when someone is feeling lost and forlorn, telling them to “be grateful for what they have” does N.O.T.H.I.N.G. In fact, preaching to them when they are already down might make them feel even worse for feeling down. In essence, we shame them when we do so.
And shaming gets no one anywhere. Not anywhere GOOD, at least.
Instead, the story unfolds in a way that each character does not only find gratitude in the situation, (which is often hard) but finds creativity, ingenuity and direction – all of which make them feel thankful and optimistic. For instance, when Farah was dismayed at forgetting her lunch at home, she put her tinted glasses on, which prompted her friends to ask her what was wrong (because remember Mr. Gamal had asked them to put their glasses on when they felt compelled to whine?) and when she told them that she didn’t have her lunch, they all shared theirs with her which motivated her to share hers with others if someone forgot theirs in the future.
Talk about a positive chain reaction!
Or when Adam accidentally spilled blue paint on his white T-shirt, the glasses inspired him to convert that blue blob into a whale!
Talk about creativity!
And losing at dodge ball early in the game compelled Mona to look at her surroundings while she sat on the sidelines getting bored, and she ended up taking home three caterpillars to study as they morphed into beautiful butterflies!
What a great way to turn boredom into a science project!
And Yusuf…Yusuf’s gratitude journey actually has multiple lessons. He did not find gratitude the first time…who would if they had sprained their ankle and had to stay off their feet in all the games and sports? But after his mates presented their gratitude findings, he was able to go back, re-asses the situation and not only be thankful for having the cool experience of getting x-rayed and eating three lollipops (I think 3 is the author’s lucky number! 😄), but he also realized that he wanted to be a doctor like his mom!
I think this little bump and U-turn played out by Yusuf’s character was so integral to the story because it shows kids (and adults) that it is possible to re-do things, it is possible to make mistakes and correct them, it is possible to know better and do better. Life is all about that, isn’t it?
Such a powerful lesson!
And I LOVED how Asmaa inserted the dialogue, “The glasses just made everything look pink…But they made our brains discover new ways to think about stuff!”
Do you know what dialogues like that can do? They can prompt discussions with kids about the brain and all its parts and capabilities. And trust me, kids find stuff like this fascinating if you explain it in a fun, engaging way. Talk to them about the amygdala, the cognitive brain, the emotional brain, the lizard brain! It’s like telling them about different tools or the parts of a vehicle. If you explain it in a creative and simple way, they will not only want to know more but it will also help them identify what their brain is telling them at different times, help them shift their perspective and give them more control.
Trust me, kids are smarter and more capable than we think!
Of course, ending the story with a lesson for Mr. Gamal himself was an added tweak of humor by Asmaa and a reminder to us adults that sometimes WE need to put on some tinted glasses too!
With its simple but essential message of developing ‘an attitude for gratitude’ woven into a very creative storyline with everyday language and dialogues by Asmaa, and clean but detailed illustrations by Núria Tomàs Mayolas, Mr. Gamal’s Gratitude Glasses is definitely a keeper, and I have a feeling we’ll be turning to it long after we outgrow it!
I, for one, have regularly started to whip out my 8-year-old’s sunglasses every time he whines about something! They will have to do until our next trip to the dollar store! 😆
You can order Mr. Gamal’s Gratitude Glasses from Ruqaya’s Bookshelf here!